Over the last few weeks, one challenge piled on top of another and as I was feeling weighed down, I spotted a post on Facebook (thank you Rama!) and thought it was just what my family and I needed - A reminder. A jar full of joyful memories!
I will write notes about having a full house for Thanksgiving. I will write about celebrating Hanukkah with our older boys home and being able to chat and hug and laugh with them. I'm celebrating the small milestones-They will add up.
After a year and a half of unexplained pain and illness our youngest child, Jacob has been diagnosed with abdominal migraines. He has missed almost three weeks of school since the semester began. He also has his Bar Mitzvah in a couple of weeks and has spent the last few months, in great pain or in catch up mode for both his school work and Bar Mitzvah preparation.
We have made trips and calls to the doctors' office and the pain clinic at Children's hospital. We have learned about a whole new chronic illness we'd never heard of and have tried to come to terms with. Yet again, we find ourselves in a medical situation that has little research, few medicines that help with the pain and no known cure.
I have to tell you, the relentlessness of this situation, has taken its toll. I admit I am a little tired of these tough times.
As I look back over the last 6 years, it's easy to list the medical challenges we've had to deal with and easy to forget there have been some wonderful moments as well.
It has been scientifically documented that we are more likely to remember bad things that have happened than good. We remember where we were on 9/11, 7/7 or the Tsunami but can't remember where we were last week. Tragic, traumatic and emotionally charged situations stay in our memories.
Matt Wilson a professor of neurobiology at MIT explains in a Time magazine article that our brains file these situations away, so that we can learn from and refer to them later and avoid or deal better with a difficult situation in the future. So it's easy to get caught remembering a run of bad luck, without any memory of the good that has happened. Our memories are also not very reliable. They are pliable and our recall can be colored, changed or adjusted as time goes on.
So I'm determined to fill the jar, because our family has had many wonderful experiences too. They are just not where my memory goes to first, when I think back or look forward.
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Imagine filling your jar all year. Think about dipping into it during
Imagine how that can help to balance the memories of difficult, challenging and sad times that we seem to have no difficulty remembering!
What a way to bring comfort!
To record positive experiences and remind us that nothing is ALL
bad. People have said kind words. Some days have been wonderful. Friends have been thoughtful. Strangers have complimented you. An employee or client said thank you. A boss appreciated your work. Children have laughed and we have had moments of happiness and kindness and compassion, gratitude and acknowledgement.
So will you join me by creating your own jar of joy?
Get ready to begin on January first. Or begin right now. What will you put in the jar today?
Leave me a message below and tell me how you are joining in. You can just write " I'm in" " Found a jar!" or "Writing a message to myself right now."
Let's inspire each other.
Take a picture of your jar and let's get ready to record the good times to balance out the memories of the tough ones. You can add photos and mementos as well. Anything that reminds you of the joy in your life. Remember to date each message and keep a pad of paper close by!
I am also going to add to my jar, how wonderful you, my readers are and how you inspire me to continue to write and bring comfort every day. Thank YOU!
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