My husband - the Head of School I mentioned in my previous post, addressed the student body and faculty in his Upper School on Monday morning (teens aged 12-18). In a very powerful speech he guided his staff and students by offering them ways to honor, remember and move forward from this tragedy.
|My Dad - Jeffrey Bayes z"l|
But I have also been thinking about other ways in which I have tried to honor my father's memory since he died. One of his greatest qualities was his thoughtfulness. The small acts of kindness he did for people all the time. These actions were not about him. They were about the people he cared about and what they would enjoy or need.
He would leave a chocolate bar (he knew her favorite) on his secretary's desk. He bought my mother a dozen pink roses every Friday because she loves flowers. They were also a tribute to his late mother who loved pink flowers.
When we were little, he used to buy my sister and I, Friday night presents. He used to search second hand book stores and I have many math puzzle books he discovered for me. (Yes I know you probably think that's an odd gift) but I loved them.
And after he died, strangers, recounted many ways he had touched them, through a thoughtful letter, supportive phone call or listening ear, that we never knew about during his lifetime.
In order for us all to move forward from the Newtown tragedy, I have come to the conclusion that there is one important thing we can each do.
We can each take a moment to think about someone we have loved and admired who has died.
Think about one of their qualities or actions you admired most.
One that affected you in a positive way
to trying to emulate that action or quality
in their honor
I am trying to remember to send messages and texts and emails to my friends, when they are going through a difficult experience, to emulate something my Dad did so naturally.
Who are you going to honor and what are you going to do to perpetuate their memory? Please tell me below and share this post so that others do the same.
Whatever it is, I hope it will help you to take some control of your immediate surroundings, move forward with purpose from this latest tragedy and take one step closer to making your little patch of world a better place.
If you would like to read my previous post about dealing with crises in schools ( from the perspective of the wife of a headmaster-that's me) or my husband's speech click on the links.
Hoping you find inspiration to carry you forward this week.
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