tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3363712305146749297.post5365152339855529199..comments2023-12-17T21:45:17.581-05:00Comments on Brainstorm: Warning:You May be Tripped Up by Unexpected Emotions! You're Not Alone.Gilly Cannonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18393339396656670745noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3363712305146749297.post-43166359794766258652014-06-08T11:07:33.523-04:002014-06-08T11:07:33.523-04:00Thank you Marie -Your hugs are greatly appreciated...Thank you Marie -Your hugs are greatly appreciated! Yes I think the emotions are always there and actually I find it comforting that they do still show up -it means as Elaine points out above, that my love for my Dad is as strong as ever. It's the unexpectedness that catches us off guard as your story demonstrates. Love to you. GillyxGilly Cannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18393339396656670745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3363712305146749297.post-31287984825452767832014-05-30T22:44:17.330-04:002014-05-30T22:44:17.330-04:00I'm so sorry about your father, Gilly. It'...I'm so sorry about your father, Gilly. It's uncanny how our senses can bring emotions to the forefront. A particular smell, a song or a family member with the same mannerisms as the departed loved one, all can get our emotions to trip us up. I guess the emotions are always there, just waiting for a chance to show up.<br /><br />When we first moved to our current home, our neighbor introduced herself. Upon further conversation, she confirmed that she was from Charleston, SC. I knew this already, because when she opened her mouth, it was as if my beloved grandmother was speaking (she passed away in 1994, and had grown up in Charleston). I tried so hard to keep from crying during our entire conversation.<br /><br />I am sure all this was doubly hard for you because of the health connection with your dad. Sending you hugs across the miles!Marie Purnellhttp://www.livingamystery.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3363712305146749297.post-89949288835552865562014-05-20T17:28:23.018-04:002014-05-20T17:28:23.018-04:00At the time, my younger sister was working as a do...At the time, my younger sister was working as a doctor in the hospital in which my father died. Bravely she goes back there to consult, sometimes. I don't know how she does it, knowing there are so many memories there. But you can't avoid places forever just in case they stir up old wounds.<br />Actually being 'tripped up' and feeling the grief was cathartic and for me the tears are because of the love. :-). The tears remind me how lucky I was to have a Dad I loved so much and who loved me, unconditionally. Thank you for sharing a story and your triggers for emotional moments Elaine. It's an honor and pleasure to know you and once more I'm grateful to Twitter for our 'meeting" . GillyxGilly Cannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18393339396656670745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3363712305146749297.post-27924765822923025072014-05-20T17:04:01.560-04:002014-05-20T17:04:01.560-04:00Thank you so much Jane. GillyxThank you so much Jane. GillyxGilly Cannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18393339396656670745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3363712305146749297.post-80978698409830256642014-05-20T17:03:44.928-04:002014-05-20T17:03:44.928-04:00Thanks for the advice and glad to help it all come...Thanks for the advice and glad to help it all come out!LOL. Gillyx Gilly Cannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18393339396656670745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3363712305146749297.post-64397371007887852132014-05-20T16:41:20.579-04:002014-05-20T16:41:20.579-04:00Thank you….Yes and my Dad would have approved of c...Thank you….Yes and my Dad would have approved of chocolate as a balm!Hope you enjoyed your chocolate fix. Gillyx Gilly Cannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18393339396656670745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3363712305146749297.post-15629226573798427042014-05-20T16:39:23.493-04:002014-05-20T16:39:23.493-04:00Stephanie- I love your line, "Feelings really...Stephanie- I love your line, "Feelings really do live in your body and find their way out when they need to." That certainly explains why they show themselves at unexpected moments! Thanks for reading and for your lovely message. GillyxGilly Cannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18393339396656670745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3363712305146749297.post-12372549813985090672014-05-20T16:33:31.921-04:002014-05-20T16:33:31.921-04:00Thank goodness they didn't ignore your husband...Thank goodness they didn't ignore your husband's symptoms completely.I'm so glad to hear he is cancer free. That must have been a scary time for you all. <br /><br /> A friend sent me an article today that says in the UK that the doctors' guide is to only send people over 60 with one symptom, for a colonoscopy. There is no age at which everyone is screened automatically as there is in the USA. Patients aged 40-60 must have 2 symptoms or more. For under 40's there's an assumption that it must be something else because they are too young to have bowel cancer. <br /><br />A 19 yr old in the UK -Stephen Sutton who made huge headlines, died of colon cancer last week. he said his diagnosis was delayed by 6 months from when he first had symptoms. <br /><br />If you are young and have symptoms that are abnormal, you really have to advocate for testing and if you hit the 50 mark don't hold back! Thanks so much for your comment and thank you for sharing your story. GillyxGilly Cannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18393339396656670745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3363712305146749297.post-61009636984111311252014-05-20T16:14:51.780-04:002014-05-20T16:14:51.780-04:00It's been interesting to me to see how my view...It's been interesting to me to see how my view of my father's dying has developed as I have grown closer in age to that of my parents friends at that time. I was aware that his friends were terribly upset and shocked but didn't really grasp that although he died far too young, it was far too young for them as well and for many of them it was one of the first of their very dear friends. I'm so sorry that your mother-in-law died from colon cancer at such a young age. We can't make up for what they have missed, but we can do our best to keep their memories alive and take care of our own health. GillyxGilly Cannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18393339396656670745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3363712305146749297.post-23316078555312107442014-05-20T09:50:45.522-04:002014-05-20T09:50:45.522-04:00Absolutely beautiful, Gilly. I wish I had met your...Absolutely beautiful, Gilly. I wish I had met your dear father.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13077529418238494576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3363712305146749297.post-47100711002290010332014-05-20T09:27:04.862-04:002014-05-20T09:27:04.862-04:00Been doing them since college! Just a necessary ha...Been doing them since college! Just a necessary hassle but well worth it. And the new drugs are soooo much better. I have some funny stories about extraordinary gas passing behind curtains in the hospital or after the procedure in a posh doctor's office. Then there was the time a handsome attendant started asking me casual questions with my bum hanging out. The prep is tedious but well well worth it. Stay away from fried food. Eat roughage. Coffee help clear the system. Quick yoga breath OUT activates the muscle that relieves constipation. Stay regular.<br /><br />. Thanks Gilly-I haven't talked about this outside my family in years!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3363712305146749297.post-48231431575527122902014-05-20T09:14:38.820-04:002014-05-20T09:14:38.820-04:00Thank you. It's good you're having your te...Thank you. It's good you're having your test on time. I took a friend for a colonoscopy recently and there were many tears as her husband died two years ago with cancer and mine a few years before that. The medical setting touched both of us, as well as the kindness of the doctor and assistants. I'll have my test this summer. I imagine it will move me to be on the table instead of the one holding someone's hand. I expect these "unexpected" emotional moments and unusual triggers. Happiness, loss, a memory, visiting a certain place, or nothing I can name brings a flood of feeling. I don't mind. A wave of love follows the tears. Thanks again, Gilly.Elaine Mansfieldhttp://elainemansfield.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3363712305146749297.post-79260068039129539872014-05-20T09:02:50.267-04:002014-05-20T09:02:50.267-04:00Sitting in a NYC cafe, waiting for a friend, weepi...Sitting in a NYC cafe, waiting for a friend, weeping. Missing you and wishing I could be a better support. This is a beautiful post. I hope you had some chocolate after writing this. I know I will...Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03046374724759244985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3363712305146749297.post-65069930036756103512014-05-20T09:01:46.009-04:002014-05-20T09:01:46.009-04:00Have found this to be so true since my own father&...Have found this to be so true since my own father's death 16 months ago. Feelings really do live in our body and find their way out when they need to. Hugs to you. And so happy you are taking such good care of yourself!Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07639843466641554262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3363712305146749297.post-91691390921064595032014-05-20T05:19:24.067-04:002014-05-20T05:19:24.067-04:00{{{Hugs}}} Your PS is right on. My hubby was diagn...{{{Hugs}}} Your PS is right on. My hubby was diagnosed with colon cancer at age 38!!! They almost ignored the symptoms only because of his young age. He would not be here now if they had. He was stage 3A (it didn't look good when they found the tumor) and now is cancer-free. A colonoscopy is not to be skipped! My daughter needs to start getting her colonoscopies by age 28 (because of her father). I know he is proud of you for getting your check-ups. Sadly, not everyone does that. I'm sorry for your loss - and yours Tesyaa. {{Hugs}} and blessings, <br />Hummingbird (20SecondsWithMC)https://www.blogger.com/profile/06069347953785436510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3363712305146749297.post-83516406878993209182014-05-19T22:40:52.818-04:002014-05-19T22:40:52.818-04:00Wow - I can sort of relate since my husband's ...Wow - I can sort of relate since my husband's mother died of colon cancer at the age of 50, shortly after my husband and I got married. She too was in the prime of her life (and my husband is now the age at which she died). She lived to see her son married and her daughter engaged, but never saw any grandchildren. tesyaahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08411240806288272179noreply@blogger.com